Thoughts, and observations I’ve had since acquiring a vagina

⚠ This post contains unfiltered descriptions of many things related to a vulva. These are things you do not discuss in “polite” society. If you don’t want to hear details - pleasant and not - about having a pussy then you should not keep reading. Please note. Some of this knowledge is cursed.

Most of this stuff will be well known to vagina-havers, but maybe interesting to hear the discovery of. Some of this stuff is very specific to the experience of getting a custom vagina install.

Hygene

Peeing

• Urethral Opening

  As anyone with even a passing familiarity with female genitals knows, the urethra is not on the outside.

  I never really thought about the implications of that until I had to deal with it. It’s so clean for penis-havers. The opening’s right out there with nothing in the way. You pee. You maybe have a single drop you shake off. The end.

  I suspect how this plays out is different for every vagina-haver based on body fat, and the shape and thickness of your labia minora, and majora. I dunno, I haven’t really watched videos on the subject.

  In my case, the labia minora spread apart when I sit on the toilet, and pee just kinda “finds a way” out. It’s like turning a ravine upside-down, and the water that was at the bottom either drops out directly, or runs down the sides.

  When tissue is engorged from arousal, or overheating, or whatever. Then the walls are pressing in, and it sounds like you’ve put your thumb over the end of a garden-hose.

  Also, without metaphorically - or literally - hosing it down, there’s no way to remove all the pee. There’s gonna be a small amount left in there, clinging to the inner walls. So, that’s… a thing.

• Water Flows Downhill

  You know what’s lower than your vulva when sitting on a toilet? Your butt cheeks. Some of the pee goes “out”, but sometimes some of it runs “down”.

  No-one warned me about this!

  I was not prepared to wipe a stream that traveled a few inches down my butt cheek.

• Temperature Matters

  Pee is your body temperature when it leaves you, and there’s not a lot of wind in a toilet bowl. Sometimes this means it gently runs across a small bit of flesh and I don’t feel it until it reaches a hair.

Toilet paper

Toilet paper obviously something created, and promoted, by a men. It’s fine for the butt, but it’s a fucking terrible solution to the problem of cleaning or drying labia after peeing.

The stuff disintegrates and sticks to whatever it’s touching if it even sees moisture. Using it to dry a bunch of wet fleshy folds behind a bunch of hairs is a terrible idea. Any penis-havers reading this should try pouring water onto a sidewalk and then trying to dry it with toilet paper. It’s at least that bad.

I always wondered why my wife used such big wodges of it to dry herself. Now I know. It’s the only way to not get pee all over your fingers.

Also, I keep finding teeny pieces of it stuck to my labia. Not like every time, but still… If I was sexually active I’d be terrified of letting anyone play around down there without taking a shower first. I keep my upside-down peri-bottle around because we don’t have a bidet, and sometimes I feel like “fuck it. Get out the hose”

Scent

I mean this in a good way. My pussy smells like pussy. At least, like I remember cis. pussy smelling. It’s been a while.

But, it’s also a warm, dark, moist place which is party-central for bacteria that make scents. Maybe I’m being overly-sensitive. But I feel like a daily shower is a requirement now, not just a social norm.

Sex

Cravings

For context: I don’t really care what anyone has between their legs, but I’m attracted to girl-shaped-people: femme, butch, cis, trans, whatever. “Guy” things are turn-offs: facial hair, big muscles, deep voices, toxic-masculinity, patriarchy, etc.

With the exception of one guy - nearly 30 years ago - I’ve never craved cock… until acquiring a pussy. A few after surgery - when my hormones were going crazy - I wanted nothing more than to be fucking railed by a big hard cock in my pussy. Now, my hormones are back to very cis-female levels, but I keep getting an occasional craving to be fucked with a cock. Not a cock-shaped-dildo, a cock.

To be clear, the idea of being fucked by a guy is a massive turn-off. Additionally I could barely fit a thimble in my pussy, never-mind a cock, so this isn’t even possible. And yet…

It’s just very confusing, and I don’t know where it’s coming from. On top of that is the thought that even if I did have a trans girlfriend with a penis that she actually wanted to use I wouldn’t be able to satisfy the craving anyway, so what the hell am I supposed to do with any of this?!

No, don’t say anal. My butt’s afraid of anything that big. Plus it’s not what I keep craving.

Motions

I’m not sure what I expected. So much importance is placed on the clit. Especially regarding a guy’s ability to find it, and make it feel good.

What I wasn’t expecting was that some of the things that I saw in porn, but didn’t make any sense were real, and not just for show. Like, slapping your mons just above the clit, or taking all your fingers and rubbing the flesh covering the clit without directly touching it.

I wasn’t expecting my clit to be so damn sensitive that I rarely touch it directly. I was expecting that to be the focus of fun-time. Maybe that’s just a me thing though. Don’t get me wrong, things feel great, but not directly.

Orgasms

I described the sensation in my surgical post, but despite the sensation having changed quite a lot before surgery, I wasn’t prepared for how radically different things would feel after.

Personally, I think it’s so much better, but I imagine most guys wouldn’t agree. It feels so… Feminine? Soft? Glowey? Liquid? Not at all like the thrusting targeted burst of before.

I didn’t really have any expectations with regards to multiple orgasms, beyond it being a possibility, but the whole “you can just keep going, and it just keeps feeling good until you come again” is… interesting.

Oral Sex

I’ll tell you when / if I find out, but I can’t wait to find out.

Intercourse

Don’t know. Won’t know. Despite the cravings, there’s nowhere to stick a penis-shaped thing.

I still think minimal depth - that ended up as zero - was the right decision for me. Feel free to hit me up on Mastodon / The Fediverse if you are contemplating going for minimal depth and have questions around that decision.

Misc

Shaving

Why is it so difficult?! Maybe I just need to practice more.

Shaving a scrotum is hard, but it makes sense why.

Nerve Mapping

Tissue got moved around, and repurposed. This has a couple weird side effects.

I don’t actually know where the pee comes out. I’ve tried looking when I’m peeing but it’s around a curve, so I can’t see it directly. What I know is that the skin it’s exiting past was roughly 1cm up from the base of my penis, just below the left-most point. That’s a weird place to feel pee exiting.

What’s worse, is that I can’t find this place with my finger. Touching with my finger feels completely different, so I can’t do anything to tell my brain where it really is, and remap it. I could try touching while I’m peeing but that sounds like a very messy proposition.

Normally you’d remap nerves by showing your brain - usually visually - where the sensation is coming from, and doing this repeatedly until the brain “gets it”. There are multiple places where I’ve done this either through sight or touch, and it’s actually hard to think of where feelings in those places used to come from.

Then there’s the itching. Every now and then I get a little itch, and I have absolutely no idea where to scratch. Worse, running my fingers around in an attempt to chase the sensation down doesn’t really work. I don’t even know if it’s a real itch or just a phantom itch.

Visuals

The outsides look great, but after five-and-a-half months I still haven’t caught sight of my urethra or my clit. It’s really hard to hold my phone and photograph with one hand while sufficiently spreading things with the other, and - to my eyes - things look a bit weird in that area with everything pulled back. I honestly don’t know because I’ve never seen a cis woman spread things apart in this manner (nothing like you see in porn).

Things feel great, and work great, so I’m not complaining - plus someone staring at the insides like that would be weird - but I really do wonder WTF my clit looks like, and why I haven’t found my urethra yet. The latter should be easy but…